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African Caribbean
Widows UK

Welcome, sister

You don't have to walk this road alone.

African Caribbean Widows UK is a community for widows of African and Caribbean heritage, a place to connect, to share and to remember, with women who understand both your loss and your culture.

Three women of African and Caribbean heritage laughing together over cups of tea

“Grief shared is grief held.”

When you lose your partner, you lose a whole way of being understood. Here, you will find women who know the hymns, the food, the gatherings and the grief, and who will simply understand.

Ethel MacPepple-Jaja smiling with her late partner, both dressed for a formal celebration
Ethel, with her late partner

Our story

Born from love, and from loss

In 2025, our founder Ethel MacPepple-Jaja lost her partner suddenly, to a stroke. There was no warning and no time to prepare, one ordinary day became the day everything changed.

What followed was the kind of grief no one can prepare you for: the silence where a voice used to be, the decisions and the paperwork, the long days and the longer nights. However much love surrounds you, grief can be a lonely place.

Ethel found herself longing to sit with women who truly understood, women who knew what it was to lose a husband or partner, and who shared the culture, the customs and the ways of remembering that her late partner would have understood without a word of explanation.

So she went looking. And she found that, for widows of African and Caribbean heritage here in the UK, that place simply didn't exist.

If I need this, surely I am not the only one.

Somewhere, Ethel knew, there were other women carrying the same weight and longing for the same understanding. African Caribbean Widows UK was born from that quiet, certain thought.

It is a community where you don't have to explain yourself, where your grief and your heritage are both welcome, where the people we have lost are remembered with love, and where no one has to walk this road alone.

A note from Ethel

Dear sister,

If you have found your way here, I am so sorry for your loss. I know how heavy this road can be, because I am walking it too.

When I lost my partner in 2025, it happened without warning. In the months that followed, I longed for someone who would simply understand, not only the loss, but the culture we shared and the ways we remember the ones we love. I couldn't find that place, so I have tried, with love, to build it.

You don't have to be strong here, and you don't have to explain. Come as you are, share as much or as little as you wish, and know that you are welcome.

With love,EthelEthel MacPepple-Jaja · Founder

Our ethos

A place to be understood

Like the wisteria in our emblem, we grow stronger together, many blossoms, one vine.

  • Understood

    Here you won't have to explain where you come from, how your family mourns, or why the little things matter so much. We share more than loss, we share a culture.

  • Held gently

    Grief keeps its own time. Whether your loss is recent or many years behind you, come as you are and share as much, or as little, as you wish.

  • Together

    Friendship, conversation and companionship with women walking a similar road. Nobody should have to carry this alone.

  • Remembered

    We honour the husbands and partners we have lost, and the love, the laughter and the lives we built with them.

How it works

Joining is simple, and gentle

For widows of African and Caribbean heritage across the UK, whether your loss was last month or many years ago.

  1. 1

    Tell us a little about you

    Answer a few gentle questions, it takes about two minutes, and you only share what feels right.

  2. 2

    A personal welcome

    Someone from our community will contact you personally, by phone, WhatsApp or email, whichever you prefer.

  3. 3

    Find your people

    We'll help you connect with other women who understand, at your own pace, in your own way.

Join the community

There is a place for you here

Taking the first step can be the hardest part. When you're ready, we're here.

We'd love to welcome you

A few gentle questions, one at a time, about two minutes. Then someone from our community will contact you personally.

Everything you share is treated with care and kept private.

Prefer to write to us? acwidowsuk@gmail.com

Questions

You may be wondering…

Who is the community for?

Women of African and Caribbean heritage living in the UK who have lost a husband or partner. However your family came to be here, and whatever your story, you are welcome.

Does it matter how long ago I lost my partner?

Not at all. Some of us are in the first raw months; for others it has been years. Grief doesn't follow a timetable, and neither do we.

I'm not sure I'm ready to talk. Can I still join?

Yes. Many people simply want to know there are others who understand. You can listen, take your time, and share only when, and if, you feel ready.

What happens after I fill in the form?

Your details come straight to us, and someone from the community will contact you personally in the way you've chosen, to welcome you and talk about how you'd like to be involved.

Is what I share kept private?

Yes. Your details are only used to contact you about the community. We never sell or share them. You can read our privacy notice for the full details.

If you need support today

We are a peer community, not a counselling or crisis service. If you are struggling right now, please reach out to people who can help straight away.

  • Cruse Bereavement Support

    0808 808 1677

    Free bereavement helpline

  • Samaritans

    116 123

    Free, any time, day or night

  • In an emergency

    999

    or NHS 111 for urgent help